Coping with Grief During Christmas

Christmas is often described as “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for those grieving, the festive season can feel anything but. The holidays can amplify the pain of loss, as traditions, family gatherings, and celebrations highlight the absence of a loved one.

If you’re struggling with grief this Christmas, know that you are not alone. Here are some compassionate strategies to help you navigate this challenging time:

Give Yourself Permission to Feel

It’s okay to feel sadness, anger, or even guilt during Christmas. Suppressing emotions can make the pain feel heavier, so allow yourself to experience and express what you’re feeling.

Adjust Traditions

If certain traditions feel too painful, consider modifying or skipping them this year. It’s okay to create new traditions that honour your loved one in a way that feels manageable—such as lighting a candle in their memory, setting a place for them at the table, or donating to a cause they cared about.

Plan Ahead

Uncertainty can add to the stress of the season. Take some time to plan how you want to spend Christmas. Let friends and family know what you feel up to—whether that’s attending gatherings, staying home, or doing something entirely different.

Accept Support

Let loved ones support you, whether it’s through listening, helping with preparations, or just being present. If you find it difficult to talk to those close to you, consider reaching out to a grief counsellor or support group. Sometimes, sharing your experience with others who understand can bring comfort.

Honour Their Memory

Finding ways to include your loved one in your celebrations can be healing. This could be as simple as hanging a special ornament on the tree, sharing stories about them, or cooking their favourite dish.

Take Care of Yourself

Grief can be physically and emotionally draining. Prioritise self-care by eating well, resting, and giving yourself time to recharge. Remember, it’s okay to say no to obligations that feel overwhelming.

Seek Moments of Joy

It’s okay to feel moments of joy, even amidst grief. Laughter, connection, and celebration don’t diminish the love you have for the person you’ve lost. Allow yourself to experience these moments without guilt.

Remember: There’s No Right or Wrong Way

Grief is deeply personal, and there’s no “correct” way to navigate it. Whatever you choose to do this Christmas, trust that you’re doing your best—and that’s enough.

The festive season can be especially tough when we’re grieving, but it’s important to remember that you don’t have to face it alone. Reach out for support, honour your feelings, and take the time to care for yourself.

Take Christmas one moment at a time.

If you or someone you know is struggling after the loss of someone to suicide, please don’t hesitate to reach out for support.

Together, we can find light even in the darkest of times.